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Awaken Me
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Awaken Me
In relationships there are times we do grow apart. It's ok too. Well all need time to go within ourselves to evaluate, ponder, adjust some things. The problem with it though is if we do not share what caused or is causing our retreat from our partners is where the problems begin. Alot of us start looking at ourselves trying to figure out what we have done wrong all of own insecurities start screaming at us.. I know when my man first starting going into his cave I took it so personal, hence what inspired my little ditty up there. However, these days I don't do that but it is still so very hard to be shut out, closed off from the one you love the most in this world. When all you wanna do is help them. Love them.. It can turn into a might mare sometimes still.. I seem to pick men who do this, the private, emotionally unattainable type but over the years I have found its ok it's not that he doesn't love or trust me. It's just his way. As I stated at the beginning I do wish these type of men could at least say hey I've had a hard day, I'm going through some stuff, affirm that is not me or the relationship problems causing this distance. Now, I know I'm pushing it but, how about when they emerge from their caves they tell us at least their ok ,its over, its been solved so we don't keep wondering worrying about them. Heck how about sharing what they may have learned every once in awhile..Communicate !! now I'm really pushing it  Allowing us to see your vulnerabilities will melt our hearts. ANDI promise we'll still see as strong ,capable macho men after wards and who knows maybe all this "sharing" will create some "intimacy" that will inspire us to show you just how much we love you  LL 
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hey hi~~ hello
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see that is what I meant when I said its ok to do this but you still should tell your partner if they haven't figured it out for themselves, and I would definetly respect your wishes to not ask or pry about it once you told me what was goin on sometimes reading your man can be hard if they stay to tight lipped know what I mean.
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This is so sweet. Selfishness throws me into the cave and the non-caring attitude brings me out of the shell much stronger. It's not my way of life but it's the only solution to survive right now. Thanks for the lovely post 
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my exwife did the cave thing and went looking for the first person that she thought would listen to her but she never tred talking to me. yes i am not the best at expressing feeling but i know that and am always working on that. i think that sometime s people feel that the partner will not want to listen to there problems so they don't talk about. my ex GF was all about her and how the world had wronged her, so it was pointless to talk to her, she would alway turn it in to something about her. i'm happy both those relationshops has ended. GF i have now is so easy to talk to it's inreal. we have both gone through a lot of shit and came out strong. i don't think our relationship would be the same if not for the our pasts life. we both agree on that. so basically i think when someone is truly with the person meant for them it's easy to talk, but if you don't tryto you will never know. hope this all didn't sound to stupid.
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hey hi~~
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loving texts through out the day thats sweet I get my phone calls not everyday but enough  my guy is doing alot better with communicating but he is still a private sort of person. I can respect that
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yep the lack of communication is a huge issue to overcome heck even bad communication is better than none. I am glad you found your way out of all of that, not everyone does. You are a strong woman  im usually right about what is up with him, but I try so hard not to assume things with people but with some thats all you can do. My hubby is doing alot better with communicating with me ,he is an aspie afterall  it took him time to leran and understand the need in all of it. but like I told nang he is still a pretty private person but I can live with that.
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I know what you are saying, and think it is beautiful. after so many years together you would hope they know each other so well they can read each others mind  alot of couples like that just have this knowing vibe about ecah other, an unspoken language..
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This is so sweet. Selfishness throws me into the cave and the non-caring attitude brings me out of the shell much stronger. It's not my way of life but it's the only solution to survive right now. Thanks for the lovely post
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my exwife did the cave thing and went looking for the first person that she thought would listen to her but she never tred talking to me. yes i am not the best at expressing feeling but i know that and am always working on that. i think that sometime s people feel that the partner will not want to listen to there problems so they don't talk about. my ex GF was all about her and how the world had wronged her, so it was pointless to talk to her, she would alway turn it in to something about her. i'm happy both those relationshops has ended. GF i have now is so easy to talk to it's inreal. we have both gone through a lot of shit and came out strong. i don't think our relationship would be the same if not for the our pasts life. we both agree on that. so basically i think when someone is truly with the person meant for them it's easy to talk, but if you don't tryto you will never know. hope this all didn't sound to stupid. you are right if you two had not went through what you both did and Learned from the experiences you wouldnt of been who you were the day you two meet, ready to be part of a healthy couple I love hearing good news nice seein ya
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not always I still have faith in Love
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aahh ha I'm feelin ya on this one
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I'm sorry she does that, since we are being honest I have done that myself the eye rolling thing but it was because it was the same problem he had told me at least 50 times about and he had the power to keep it from going on.. not saying this is why it happens to you but have you ever asked her why she does it ?? or told her that it upsets you ?
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so did I its like a secret unspoken language with couples like that but they had to get to that point to start off in a relationship knowing each others unspoken language is very rare I would think they had to communicate to get there I would imagine unless well like I said its the very rare type
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thanks men are just that way well most men are my hubby has gotten better over the years but there is still room for improvement
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