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Please tell me if I did anything Wrong here!
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Please tell me if I did anything Wrong here! Ok so I get this email this morning and it goes "hi...I am chris, I am 23, and I am here to help if you need something. I am used to discreet, so that will not be a problem..." and the only thing I can think of is why is this guy talking about being discreet so I email back and ask "Where did the concept of discreet enter the picture? I do not even recall mentioning discreet in my profile." I get this reply back this evening "hi there....I said I can be discreet if you wanted...I can be overt too. I was just giving you the offer if you were so inclined to take it. However, I think you would rather bitch about it, and try to talk down to me because I said something that was not a direct take off your profile...wow a guy with a thought in his head...." Ok I did not think I bitched but maybe I did, I just kind of wanted a clue of where the idea of me wanting something discreet came from? Simple question I thought. I just think the offer was kind of in left filed from what my profile says about me. I mean that would be like reading his profile, which is basic I am in the navy, I like doing blank and blank, I love making a woman feel good and blah blah, and me emailing him and saying I can fuck you in the ass with a strap on if you want. I don't know maybe it is me but if I wanted or desired discreet I think I would have mentioned that...oh and it disturbs me when he says he is used to being discreet too lol! So you tell me did I do something wrong, was I bitching?  |
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6/8/2006 8:42 pm |
Think it's a situation where you both might have overreacted. You seemed to go on the offensive with your reply and he got bothered by it. I think he probably took it a bit too personally. Just my take on it.
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6/8/2006 8:49 pm |
Yes you were. If you look a lot of people on this site are married and appreciate descreet even the single ones. Of course if you like advertisment then thats your bag and thats ok just don't get all hot and bothered when the world knows your bussiness.
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6/8/2006 9:22 pm |
nah you are right on the money. so you didn't mention discreet, and he did. You asked a question, and he got all anal about it. Move on and you will find a better guy with some matters. Carpe Diem
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6/8/2006 9:27 pm |
I agree with jeepidiot...misunderstanding...happens so easily and tactfullness these days are rare to find...you did have a right to ask...he had a right to respond to your question but then he added far too much...he could have just laughed it off...too bad...
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6/29/2006 5:35 am |
All you did was ask a question and he went nutty.
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7/5/2006 3:46 pm |
Well, I look at that two ways- His "discreet" could have been an assumption that since you have that adorable boy, you might need "help" despite what was said in your profile. The other way to look at it is he may be assuming you have "needs" that you don't want others to know about. In either case, he assumed without clarifying first. If that was his intro e-mail to you, well... that's not too good of a way to introduce yourself  Now to your reply- The "attitude" in your reply reflects the same attitude that is in your profile- You're strong and independent and are upfront with things (and I am assuming there!  ).Had he read that profile thoroughly, I doubt he'd have sent that e-mail So to answer your question- *I* personally don't see where you did anything wrong.
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7/19/2006 9:44 pm |
I think your profile is one of the best thought out (outlined, etc.), comprehensive and well written intros on this site. Mr. "BobBigGun" kinda stole my fire though, because he captured my sentiments regarding emails and on-line conversation. Communication is too complex, especially matters of the heart, to be faithfully captured in an email. Perhaps it is the implied or expected brevity which transforms a thoughtful letter into a crass email. However in this case, I don't think the author was capable of much more. Kudos to you & brother BigGun.
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No, nothing wrong with that one. Some people send emails and don't read the profile, as witnessed by the fact that couples still email me from time to time. Look on the bright side, at least he didnt ask you to fuck his dog while he watched, like a friend of mine had sent to her. Aut viam inveniam aut faciam Tips for Guys to Meet Women  Things i miss most about relationships
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10/30/2006 2:11 am |
Email is always so impersonal its easy to misconstrue text. Also some people have one thing set in their heads and don't take the time to stop and process information they're given. Sure maybe you over-reacted a bit...but sometimes if people would jsut take the time to read a profile, a blog, whatever they'd get a better insight... and in the end perhaps a better response... BTW would love tot alk with you more on a professional level I'm a photographer too. Sounds like we sadly take a lot fo the same shots. however i lucked out and am expanding on my artistic type shots now. `Velvet Hell is when u should have walked away, but u didn't.
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Sounds to me as though he sent you a cut-and-paste email and then got defensive when you called him on it. What I really think is funny is the one woman who thought you were too harsh is married and sneaking around ... I refuse to engage in a battle of wits with an unarmed man. - Winston Churchill
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11/10/2006 2:13 pm |
Not meaning to differ with everyone else who answered, but if you look at your profile, you will see that in the shaded area under "26 YEAR OLD XXXXXwhere it says what you are looking for you must have checked discreet relationship, so that is likely where he got it. That said I can in no way comprehend his over reaction to your honest question. Hunt122000
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11/13/2006 5:00 am |
May be this guy just thought that you had a chld and that discretion would be necessary?
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12/3/2006 8:46 pm |
Hmmmmmmm, well you may not like my answer...but here it goes: Obviously he did not read your profile, and he was in left field, and, like you, I didn't like how he said that he was "used to being discrete" either. But, I think you did over-react a bit and this blog is not worth the effort. Forget him and delete this blog and move on, being glad you are smart enough to spot a fake early on, but thoughtful that you spent so much time thinking about it. That's my honest answer. James
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12/27/2006 2:29 pm |
LOL.....looks like some ones' periscope doesn't go all the way to the top 
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1/24/2007 5:01 pm |
Guys and Gals: The word is DISCRETE and not DISCREEEET. Yes you have been bitchy but so what? You are a woman , you are gorgeous, and you are entitled to be a little bitchy sometime
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3/17/2007 10:31 pm |
You were right in what you did. Kent
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6/2/2007 7:46 am |
you are ahot gal. you just need some luv and luving. you are so sweet
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6/15/2007 9:03 pm |
Honey, don't worry about it and go on. Some guys just think they are the bomb and a woman can't talk to them. You just have to learn to weed out the bad ones from the good ones. Just be careful
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hey hottie love ya
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9/25/2007 4:39 pm |
Sometimes it it mch easier to ingore such people and stick with those who have enough of a brain to own the ability to communicate. Trying to explain this to the idiots online seems like "casting pearls before swine" so to speak. (I use this analogy because my time is too valuable to waste on the foolish or the illiterate)
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You need to come back to the site! Let's talk! Chuck
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