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Not Getting What you Expect...  

rm_Quixy101 71M
2827 posts
9/21/2012 8:03 am
Not Getting What you Expect...
I have had times on here where I have been surprised, both positively and negatively. But it seems its the negative ones that stand out and refuse to go away. I find that very frustrating and constantly remind myself that there have been some truely awesome GREAT things that have happened in my 6+ years on here. (Goodness!! 6+ YEARS!?!, where does the time go??)

I think sometimes expectations can be the root of the disappointment. Like driving for 8 hours to meet someone who you "expect" to have sex with. Staying with them the whole weekend and not even getting to touch them intimately. I mean it was pulling teeth to even get her to take all her clothes off. But the real problem with that wasn't hers...it was mine. I "expected" to have sex with her. There's really no "expecting" allowed is there? Sure it looked like that was what was going to happen, and we had talked about it ALOT before we got together, but "expecting" someone to do something is a sure fire way to being disappointed. As I look back on it now I realize that she likely was disappointed in me, and therefore wasn't into further exploitation of the weekend. She said she would spend the weekend with me and she did...my problem, not hers.

I have come to the conclusion that I should be much less "expecting" and much more accepting. Hey if something clicks and it happens GREAT! But as Linus (Peanuts character) once said "Blessed are those who expect nothing, They shall not be disappointed". Such a true statement!! So for the last couple of meetings I have expected nothing and have not been disappointed. It hasn't led to sex every time but it also hasn't left me upset and angry.

Shortly after my "BAD" experience of the above mentioned weekend I went to Toronto for business. I had been talking to a woman from there the weeks leading up to it and suggested we maybe have dinner one night when I was there. She agreed. We met and had a very nice meal together. We just clicked and spent the next four days/nights together having a fabulous time. So I became a believer in not "expecting".

So tell me faithful readers...what have been your experiences with "expecting" and "accepting"?

Todays female picture is simply a beautiful woman who's picture speaks for itself...
Msboobsy 70F
5972 posts
9/21/2012 12:39 pm

 I try not to expect anything but meeting. Not disappointed that way as you said.


rm_Quixy101 replies on 9/21/2012 1:44 pm:
Exactly...better to do that than continue to get upset...Smart lady!!

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