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Help Me Understand
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Help Me Understand So, there's this guy. We met on a vanilla site about 5 months ago and I discovered he works out at my gym. After a few back and forth emails, we introduced ourselves after a workout. I didn't feel he was interested and we ceased contact. About a month ago, he turned back up and asked me out. Turns out, he's been busy working on his degree and doing an internship. We had a brief dinner date last weekend and we've been hanging out. He accompanied me on yesterday's 20 mile cycling trip and we watched the fireworks atop a large bluff last night. I can tell there is mutual attraction but he is taking things extremely S-L-O-W. Maybe I'm just used to guys trying to bed me after the first date but the most he has done has been a brief peck on the lips and a hug. It's got me climbing the wall! I've dropped a few subtle (OK, not so subtle) hints that I'm ready to get past first base (texting him a risque photo) and he just isn't taking the bait. I even confessed to him after we went cycling, my libido was so high that I spent the afternoon perusing porn and getting myself off. Even that didn't register. He admitted to being 'surprised' by my confession. Maybe my sex drive is freaking him out. Guys, what gives? What am I missing here? |
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Perhaps he genuinely likes to go slow and not apply any pressure. Or, perhaps, believe it or not, he's just one of those guys who isn't used to a lot of female attention, therefore the signals you're sending out are still too subtle for him, despite your impression to the contrary. Although I'm struggling to validate that after your confessing over the porn and masturbating!! Nothing wrong with you actually taking the predator role. It's the 21st century. Women are allowed to now!
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hmm, I like both answers from they guys before me....I think a nice adult conversation with the guy would help...he might me shy or inexperienced! You might have to take the lead! “Life is available only in the present moment.” Thich Nhat Hanh Come and read my blog! Become a watcher! veryfunnycple64 
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Upon further consideration, perhaps the porn mention was an error, as he may then try to compare himself unfavourably with male porn cock (and therefore your expectations in that dept). Perhaps if you had mentioned your libido and masturbation but over him, then he might have finally taken the hint!! Re: the dinner. You say it was brief dinner date. It depends on the food eaten and the length of dinner as to how romantic a date he had in his mind. Without offending all you Americans over there, if it was a burger, then not romantic; very much casual mate territory. If proper Italian or something, then that's a better indicator of his, admittedly, slow intentions. Perhaps the nature of his degree speaks of his geekiness and therefore his antennae with women?
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It is most likely making him think just what has he's gotten himself into and whether or not it would be worth doing just that.Sounds like he wants something a lot more serious with someone who is a little more mature and isn't after only one thing.It would seem the roles have been reversed.There is a reason some guys take things a little slower. "Women are allowed to now!"Sure they are.It also could have some rather dire outcomes also." Using more than all the road!
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This may not be the best answer but it's different and just might get some desired results. Next time you are alone with him reach down and grab his cock through his pants, look him directly in the eyes and tell him "I WANT this" I'm sure you'll get your answer  Everyone is on a different plane of intelligence. Some people's plane has not taken off yet!! 
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He's foolish, timid
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He might just be shy. He might not know how to handle the forwardness. Maybe he's way old-fashioned, but not in a way that seems judgemental. So far, anyway. If you're lucky, he's in full control of himself and he's stringing it out. It might get really kinky that way. Smart as a horse and hung like Einstein.
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My humble opinion is that he is trying to establish a relationship with you, perhaps something leaning towards a long term relationship. He likes you and your company and doesn't just want to be a notch on your post. Just mho.......
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The slo mo approach is quite surprising......especially after the hints...sexting....plus other comments dropped..... Click Here To Read A Hot Erotic Story: When A Woman Meets A Stranger Part 1 of 4
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My XLBF (now back on here and assisting me with HNW photos under her latest screen name BunnySniggles), is currently experiencing a somewhat similar situation with the guy she is currently (non)dating. He is recently divorced (quite bitter about it), a Mormon, her (former) chiropractor, and maybe even gay. Suffice to say the potential list of reasons for him not hitting on her is HUGE! I have to admit that I’m getting a bit of a kick out of the fact that the busty, blue-eyed, blonde goddess is now experiencing the other side of the coin, but in the end I’ll tell you what I tell her: “WHO KNOWS – but it is his right, and you can accept it, or not!” Ejaculating on the Lawn Is that Free Or Just Cheap A Different Way to Celebrate, on HNW [post 3312759] My Private Blog – Tell me All your Secrets
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It does seem surprising he hasn't taken the bait. I hope he soon bites  
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He's gay and just looking for a girl "friend."
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Hmmm...not sure...you're a sexy and attractive woman...would be really hard not to ravish you. Funny women are incredibly sexy!
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If he's taking it slow theres only a few reasons why. He, like me, may want to play it slow because sex complicates relationships. I don't play slow on here but on the vanilla site, I will definitely go slower. The last time I fucked someone from the vanilla site she basically jumped me out of frustration. He could be pursuing multiple ladies and trying to weed out the clingers. I've certainly done that. Or he's just not that physically interested, especially after the hints, but could be a geek, depending on what his degree is in. Aut viam inveniam aut faciam Tips for Guys to Meet Women  Things i miss most about relationships
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There are two things that I can think of... 1. He has someone else on the side while talking/dating you. 2. He thinks you may be the one and wants to put his best foot forward to make sure it's not just a sexual/physical thing. That's my opinion. "There are no shortcuts to life's greatest achievements; therefore we take these risks not to escape life but to prevent life from escaping us!"poet Come visit [blog __poet__]
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