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Nothing Glorious About Death  

myelin36 53F
4614 posts
2/28/2016 7:22 am
Nothing Glorious About Death

This blog is my contribution to The Seventeenth Virtual Symposium: The First Time. Disclaimer: this true story involves death and some shocking stuff. Proceed at your own risk.

I do not care what anyone says. No amount of law enforcement training can prepare anyone for the first time an officer gets called out to work their first homicide case. But before I get ahead of myself, perhaps I should back up and start from the beginning.

I have a lot of experience with firearms. My dad was a career law enforcement officer, rising up through the ranks to police chief. I grew up on a farm, exposed to firearms and listening to my dad share stories about his experiences working homicides. I joined the military while still in high school and spent the summer after my junior year in basic training learning how to shoot M-16 A1 and A2 rifles. While deployed during Desert Storm, I witnessed atrocities of war- seeing deceased Iraqi soldiers riddled with bullet holes as our convoy made its way through the Iraqi desert. Somehow, that did not bother me.

After I exited the military, I joined the National Guard and cross-trained as a Military Police Officer and was subsequently hired to work as a civilian police officer. During three months of law enforcement academy training, I was expected to qualify with my department issued weapon, a Sig Sauer 45 caliber. In spite of being issued such a powerful weapon, I managed to qualify with it during the academy. While there, we worked "mocked" homicides.

With my experience plus three months field officer ride along training, I felt more than adequately prepared to handle whatever homicide challenges awaited me as a rookie cop working the night shift. I mean after all, how likely would I reasonably expect to deal with death working in a small Kansas community of 45,000 people?

Death came knocking at my rookie door on a warm September night in 1994 one week after I graduated the field training program and started working solo. The alert tone on the police radio alerted all officers to a major crime in progress. I remember hearing the tone and when dispatch gave the address, I cringed and felt my adrenaline soar as it became clear that the crime was in my beat or assigned location.

Myself and numerous other officers responded to the scene with limited information. A shooting had occurred. No other details were known. I exited my vehicle with my weapon drawn and we set up a perimeter around the residence as the suspect was still inside the home. The shift commander ordered the suspect out over the PA system as officers awaited further instructions.

Shortly after being commanded out, the suspect exited the residence clutching a in front of him as a human shield that appeared to be about two years old. Her nightgown had blood stains on it. She was lifeless and blue. Behind him, his hysterical wife came out carrying their slightly older , also lifeless and bloody. Once the suspect was in custody and the scene cleared, I was assigned the task of interviewing the mother of the .

As a parent, my training had not prepared me for working this type of case. I had to separate my own parental anguish from the crime that had been committed. It was hard to fathom a parent could take the life of their own innocent .

Subsequent to the crime, all professionals who had worked the double homicide, including EMS, doctors, and medical staff had to attend a trauma debriefing by a police psychologist.

I continued to work other homicides and shootings during my four year law enforcement career but the memory of that first one still haunts me 22 years later.


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DoctorBooty 43M
6426 posts
2/28/2016 7:38 am

The dad killed both of his children?


myelin36 replies on 2/28/2016 7:51 am:
Yes. He found out his wife was having an affair and planned to leave him and take the children. After shooting the girls, he had planned to finish the job killing her and himself but heard one of the girls gasping for air and was persuaded by his wife to call for help. He is still in prison as far as I know.

tickles4us 62M
7262 posts
2/28/2016 7:54 am

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myelin36 replies on 2/28/2016 6:22 pm:
I went home the next morning after my shift and kissed and held my son. He was the same age as one of the victims. Again, that is why it made working the case so difficult. Although the murdering of children is unfathomable, being a parent and feeling heartsick at the loss of a child that mother must be feeling was totally relate-able.

Golly06 71M
1932 posts
2/28/2016 8:21 am

Being in law enforcement was one job I never considered and those in that career have my thanks and respect. Death is difficult enough when it is in line of duty among those who know and accept the risks, but when innocents are involved it is hard to understand and deal with. What a very rough first time.


myelin36 replies on 2/28/2016 6:19 pm:
As I mentioned in a previous reply, I could not imaging working in law enforcement in today's world. Too many variables exist although there are more tools and technology that officers have access to, to protect and defend themselves that were not available to officers in the early 90's.

Leegs2012 51M
96137 posts
2/28/2016 8:37 am

I give the Police & Law enforcement a lot of credit. For what situations they are called to, like yourself, that must have been awful to witness. I have a lot of respect for you & all the Police Women and Men out there. I have a few friends that are on the police force.They don't get enough credit for the hard work they do. God Bless them!!!


myelin36 replies on 2/28/2016 6:15 pm:
Law enforcement is a tough occupation. Especially in today's culturally and racially charged climate. I can not imagining working as a street cop today although I frequently dream about going back and working as a cop. Weird. Perhaps I enjoyed it more than I care to admit.

T_D_H_1982 41M

2/28/2016 8:43 am

Brutal story. It's hard to carry the memory of events like that...I hope that you manage it well. Thank you for sharing something that must be terribly painful.


myelin36 replies on 2/28/2016 6:13 pm:
I have worked through witnessing this atrocity through years of clinical psychology studies while attaining my masters degree combined with consultations with other mental health professionals. The incident no longer haunts me like it once did.

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2/28/2016 9:11 am


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myelin36 replies on 2/28/2016 6:11 pm:
Bonjour Annie- Je vous remercie pour vos aimables paroles.

Thank you for your kind words.

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spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
2/28/2016 9:51 am

The murder of children is unfathomable to understand!


myelin36 replies on 2/28/2016 6:07 pm:
Yes, it is difficult to understand. However, there are many things that push people over the edge- poverty, lack of childhood nurturing, and other factors combined with the stress placed upon them by anxiety can make someone snap. As I said previously, that is one reason why I decided to switch careers. I felt working as a therapist would make a bigger impact on society and perhaps save lives.

pagancountrygirl 66F
6466 posts
2/28/2016 10:03 am

There's just no amount of training that can take away the horror of seeing some of the things we do to each other. Situations like that you can never "un-see".

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myelin36 replies on 2/28/2016 6:05 pm:
Over the years, I've recognized the importance of doing my own therapeutic work. First responders are exposed to many situations where they are traumatized by the cases they work whether it be homicides, house fires, auto accidents, search and rescues and other trauma producing situations. Many push on refusing to seek help. It is my hope that they reach out and understand help is out there.

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2/28/2016 3:07 pm

When what they describe in a text book is front of you...you get a reality check..

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myelin36 replies on 2/28/2016 5:57 pm:
No amount of training can adequately prepare any law enforcement officer to see child homicide victims as pawns in a marital love triangle.

leftbehind62 62M  
2121 posts
2/28/2016 6:06 pm

WOW!!!! Thanks for your years of service! Both Military and Civilian. I cannot imagine how disturbing dealing with a m under could be. Watching investigative shows on tv is so easy yet for some crimes it is still disturbing. Glad you made it through all. Hugs sexy!


myelin36 replies on 2/28/2016 6:32 pm:
Many people think television accurately portrays the cases and types of situations that officers are exposed to but it's nowhere close to the reality of actually working on the street, putting your life on the line day in and day out, and realizing just how close you've come to not making it home.

vazzaam1 44M
614 posts
2/28/2016 8:24 pm

nice.....
cost of living is dying......everybody has to pay....
betrayal.....unfaithful......
part of life that u spend between birth n death......
its upto u what u do .....


keep it real......


myelin36 replies on 2/29/2016 5:01 am:
I do agree that there needs to be accountability for such crimes. Often there is justice but sometimes there is not. In such cases, it is important to put your faith in the cosmic laws of the universe and hope that karma will settle the score.

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2/28/2016 9:38 pm

murderous death is traumatic to all involved. No one can really know how this will affect him or her!

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myelin36 replies on 2/29/2016 4:59 am:
And it is very interesting to note how different people cope with different traumas.

KItkat1415 61F  
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2/28/2016 9:40 pm

Wow, that is a horrible first.
I hope that you took the appropriate time to process all that.
And that you treasure your loved ones even more.
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myelin36 replies on 2/29/2016 4:58 am:
I struggled with PTSD following the incident. However, I was able to process through the trauma by seeing it not from the perspective of being a parent but, and I know this is going to sound a bit callous and strange, through seeing it through the lens of a camera and the situation not as reality, but as "staged," the children as "actors dressed in costume and make-up" and viewed the homicide as though we were taping an episode for a television show.

The rationale for doing this I think was to make it less personal and less painful to deal with. It allowed me to have some control over an otherwise senseless act.

citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
2/29/2016 7:22 am

They say there is a first time for everything but not everything is all sweetness and light in life.


myelin36 replies on 2/29/2016 6:46 pm:
No truer words spoken.

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2/29/2016 8:37 pm

What a horrific first time! Stuff the nightmares made of. So sorry you had to go through that.

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myelin36 replies on 3/1/2016 7:09 am:
It is just one of many occupational hazards with working as a law enforcement officer and probably why I only lasted four years.

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3/1/2016 6:56 pm

You made telling that story look easy, yet assembling those heart-wrenching words as you did took courage and skill. I applaud you once again, my dear Myelin.

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myelin36 replies on 3/2/2016 6:06 pm:
I missed hearing from you! So glad you stopped by.

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3/3/2016 11:04 am

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humorlife 56M  
5710 posts
3/28/2016 6:26 am

This is a horrific first time... but it is also a very valid interpretation of the topic.

In this post, you've bared more of yourself than most people do in a thousand pictures (that's a million words, for those keeping count).

The symposium isn't supposed to be about sweetness and light. At its best, its an exercise in seeing how many different interpretations can be applied to a single idea.

This time around, many people wrote about first-time sexual experiences (perfectly valid, given the nature of the site) and a few wrote about births of their first children (which were lovely accounts) a few others brought personal perspectives which seemingly came out of left field... but which were not only valid but appreciated.

Symposium contributions, like each person's blog itself, are highly personal. There are no rules for blogging except "keep blogging."

As for this post itself: You've had significant experience in peacekeeping. But as you note, there isn't much that can prepare you for a scene like this. And readers needed to see all of the history you provided to appreciate why you turned to your current profession, which is a healing profession.

Great post. Tough to write, I'd bet. Thank you.

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myelin36 replies on 3/28/2016 7:12 pm:
Thanks for the feedback. Your thoughts are respected and appreciated. It was a tough piece to write about.

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4/27/2016 12:06 am

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