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Monogamy?
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Monogamy? I have often wondered if humans were meant to be monogamous their entire lives once they get married. You hear so much of men and women cheating on spouses, live-mates, significant others not just now but throughout the ages and for some cultures it is deemed very wrong, and for others it is accepted. If you look at when you left home or wanted to, it was around the age of 20..well was for me anyway, couldn't take my father and his rules anymore....and after being married 20 years, I felt much the same way. I do know a few people who have been together for 30, 40, 50 years...most are not happy but stuck with it...and a few are extremely happy. I guess that last group is the one I most wanted to fit in, but it wasn't so for me. Now I wonder if I will ever find a relationship that will "last a lifetime", because inherantly I don't think we are meant to be with one person forever....what about you? |
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I am the last one to ask I have been married three times.
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Hi Irish... I first read this yesterday, and have been thinking about it since... I'm one of those who'd prefer to be in a long-lasting relationship, but I realize a situation like that isn't for everyone. There are those who are loners, and others who like to be in relationships, but not for very long... I'm also reminded of some thoughts I had a ways back, which were basically about whether or not marriage is something that has lost its importance in this day and age. Part of the argument for it being on the side obsolescence (I can't think of a better word at the moment; sorry) is an article I read in the last year or so that said divorced people were the majority over married people. On the opposite side of the coin, the argument for it still being relevant is seeing how some of my married friends go together so well, how they get each other. It just looks awesome to me, and makes me wish I'll have that someday. But maybe that's just me... Oh well, I hope I've made some sense. Have a good one Irish.  Will Friedle, as Eric Matthews on Boy Meets World: "Life's rough, wear a helmet".
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9/18/2008 3:34 pm |
Hi Irish, Been a while since I checked out your blog, and I return to find this interesting post. I was reading over the weekend where some researcher claims that there is a genetic marker that distinguishes those who are monogamous from those who are not. If you were to pin me down, tie me up, and blindfold me.....Ahhh....you're getting off the subject U....OK... I think that two people intimately involved with one another have to work incredibly hard to sustain a long lasting relationship; most people don't have that kind of commitment or energy. It's not that they can't, they just don't want expend that kind of effort; for fear of it failing. I find it encouraging when I meet a couple that have been together for a long time; of course, I don't know what life is really like for them when they're alone. But for whatever reason, they choose to stay the course. Then you have those on the other end of the branch, who don't want, need, or crave permanence in a relationship. That philosophy may conflict with some, but its their life; their choice, they should be allowed to make it. People are always talking about consequences, but why are there consequences to every decision we make, instead of results from our choices?. The consequences to the one who stays in a marriage, may be regret of a lost opportunity to love. The consequences for the unattached may be a lack of intimacy. People make the word consequence into a negative sounding word, when really, it's the result of our choices; the results don't even have to be good or bad, it's just the result. I'm not saying any of this as an expert, so don't take this as an attempt by me to be serious; this is, after all, fucking TSmeet!
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Hello Irisheyes Was a pleasure to read your blog and yes you made a great deal of sense this valentines day we will be married 29 years and i wouldn't give up one day of it either yes we've had some bad times but really the good times way out number the bad. All of our friends and even most of family that got married way back in the day lol are either divorced or at least separated after ready your blog the bitchis and i counted and came up with just 2 lol that are still together wow is that something or what Irish what we have is what we believe is love and friendship we are old school we are not 2 we are 1 you really have to believe in that if you don't believe that your partner comes first at all cost then from what i've seen it just doesn't work and when people ask us and we tell them you have to believe in love first and are willing to put your partner first as will she and we explain some of the bad times then some of the good time they just look at us like we're nut's lol hell irish we have so many story's we could tell you we been though in the 28 years you would die laughing lol but irish it all comes down to love,honesty,trust and LOVE
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9/20/2008 2:45 pm |
IRISH - your post reminded me of this... it is often said that variety is the spice of life, but when you find that ONE person, i think you just KNOW... Reason, Season and Lifetime .. People always come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do. .. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. ... Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. ... Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on. ... When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends. ... LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
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10/6/2008 12:11 pm |
love to chat with you sometime
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10/6/2008 7:11 pm |
You are so right on that it's not funny irisheyes. People have a tendency to grow apart from each. People change, even your likes/dislikes change. Besides with things like Viagra and Cialis I'm sure there has been a few divorces because of them. Sometimes you just need a change in life or a fresh start.
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