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Breaking-Up Is Hard To Do...  

im_soaking_wet 40F
4264 posts
6/23/2013 12:01 pm
Breaking-Up Is Hard To Do...
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oldirtybacchus 103M
9536 posts
6/23/2013 12:55 pm

 I say kick them in the cunt, and bid them good day, or just chloroform them and leave them a nice breakup audio greeting card to wake to. Or a singing telegram. What about that?

Yeah, I'm a bad person
All are welcome to an audience with The Magnificent One oldirtybacchus


im_soaking_wet 40F
1024 posts
6/23/2013 1:01 pm
    Quoting oldirtybacchus:
    I say kick them in the cunt, and bid them good day, or just chloroform them and leave them a nice breakup audio greeting card to wake to. Or a singing telegram. What about that?

    Yeah, I'm a bad person
Lol.. no!! don't do that lol


DoctorBooty 43M
6426 posts
6/23/2013 1:14 pm

 Do what I did once and just say "Pack your shit and GTFO"


im_soaking_wet 40F
1024 posts
6/23/2013 1:25 pm
    Quoting DoctorBooty:
    Do what I did once and just say "Pack your shit and GTFO"
Lol geez


BrownEyedBBW 55F  
8831 posts
6/23/2013 2:34 pm

 While I think this is generally good, there are a few things I would tweak.

1. Breaking-up via text, phone, email or anything other than in person is a cowardly thing to do. Be a man/woman and look the person in the eye.
I think that can depend on the situation and person involved. If we've been on a couple of dates, I think a text is fine. I've done it and had it done. There's not much of a commitment on either side. If the person might cause a scene or be a problem, I think that an email is fine if you've been dating for less than 6 or 12 months.

It's no longer a matter of being cowardly, we communicate differently. I mean hell, if you can have sex via email or text, why not break up that way?

2. Be straight to the point. There is no point pussyfooting around it.
Hell yes.

3. Do not leave the other person wondering why.
4. Always have a reason. A reason that the person can eventually understand.
Yes sorta. You should never change yourself because one person says, "you are so(fill in the blank)" You are who you are. Does it matter why someone is breaking up with you? At the end of the day no. That kind of info can either hurt you even more deeply. Even worse, have you ever seen that sniveling weakling whining, "but I can chaaaannge"? yeah, wheedling that out of the person who dumped you can turn you into that guy.

The thing is that sometimes there is no reason. Shit happens, you meet someone you like better, or you just don't feel the same way anymore.

So what do you say. "You are a great person, we had a good time but something just changed inside of me, something I can't explain. This isn't working for me any more and I need to end it".

At the end of the day all that matters is "I don't want to see you anymore"

5. Don't lead the person on. You will NOT be friends after. Don't pretend that you will be.
Yes, yes, yes.

If you break your wrist, you take the time to heal, you don't keep pitching a baseball. Take time away, don't talk, don't text, don't call just stay away from each other and *maybe* in a year you can be friends but I wouldn't count on it.

6. Once the break-up has happened, remove them from your phone so you don't booty call them
And your Facebook, Twitter, TSmeet Friends Network, LinkedIn and all other social networks. Anywhere.

7. Don't look back. When you walk away, keep walking. Don't play out some pathetic romance movie and look back hoping that the other person is looking. Its sad.

8. Whatever you say, treat that person with respect. Don't treat them like you are throwing them away. Show them the same respect you did when you first met.
Excellent, 'nuff said.

9. Look them in the eye. Put the phone down and spend the time talking to them
If you are doing it face to face, then yes, they deserve 100% of your attention.

10. Do it in person. I know I said this before, but I can't emphasize it enough. Any other way just shows ignorance and shows what a terrible person you truly are.
I'm still not with this 100%. Maybe for you that is important, in that case someone should do that.

Unless we've are married, living together or have been in a relationship for a long time, I don't need you to drag me out to some nice place and spend money to break up. I'll be insulted if you take me to Burger King to do it. And F2F can be very awkward for both people.

The only thing that makes you a bad person is if you act in bad faith, make promises you can't, won't or don't intend to keep or are deliberately brutal and cruel.


im_soaking_wet 40F
1024 posts
6/23/2013 5:49 pm

 @ BrownEyed ... I wanted to quote all that, but it was too long lol. I agree. I think my point in general is that people treat a break up in a disrespectful manner. Which to me is not acceptable.


im_soaking_wet 40F
1024 posts
6/23/2013 5:50 pm
    Quoting  :
No I'm not. I'm not with the same guy I was with for the last few months, but i'm with someone else. How's your puppy?


Mister_Blue66 41M
Ask me for a photo
382 posts
6/26/2013 11:30 am

 You should write a book on breaking up....well maybe a pamphlet Unless you can really BS your way into a book deal!


hunterpt 62M
13507 posts
11/17/2015 3:48 am

 very wise rules, thanks for sharing. Kisses


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