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Venting...
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Venting... Is it just me or does it seem like it just isn't as much fun as it once was? Unfortunately for me (well, fortunate because of my reasons), the only reason I come here is to chat really, but as of late it has become rather mundane, and many times frustrating and infuriating and is holding less and less of a lure for me. Some people get so bogged down by drama... about people in the room, about things that have happened to them or to others. I know that peoples' lives are complicated, but it is really not the place to air those fights when you are in a chat room is it? Some people that go in to chat are attention seekers. They want all focused on them, regardless of whether it is positively or negatively. They say things to draw it out, often at the expense of others who may be in the room, or worse, not in the room. The frustrating thing becomes when people rise to the bait and argue, throw insults... and then complain about all the drama afterwards. Are we not all adults? Do we not make our own choices? The ignore button is a wonderful thing, but even if you don't use it, it is not really that difficult to exercise the choice to remain quiet, to talk to other people or simply just leave. Talking to someone that is merely trying to be increasingly negative and rude doesn't help... it feeds the fire. I go into chat less and less, and when I do, I usually just spend my time on the lurkers couch watching. It is sad, because it can be fun with the right people, and has been a way for me to laugh and to connect with some very good people. But the more and more negative it gets, the less and less good people want to be there. C'est la vie I guess. “The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be.”- Marcel Pagnol I wish this were not so true, but for so many it is. I found my happiness. I am not going to let others rob me of that. |
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1 post 2/14/2013 1:26 pm |
Justplainfun, I have to agree with your blog on the chat..When hubby and I were here a few years ago, It seemed we always had fun, Until one day turned into more days of not so much fun ... When we came back this time I have been in chat very few times because of the drama... However it's not just the drama, It's the cliques that I see... I get that people know each other and I am not saying that's bad.. To just out right ignore other people that are new , I find is just not my thing.... Not saying everybody is like that in chat....However the fun has gone... When I go into a chat room on a site like this it should be ok that I or my husband post what we are looking for and not mocked or see comments made to myself or others about the people going into chat seeking ( example ) a couple, or male ,Whatever they seek...This is a site I come to. To have fun..So when the fun stops, I have chosen to stop going in... Another note : Putting people down and or attacking someone about this or that is just mind blowing to me.... I see people arguing in chat, I can't understand why they would want to air that kind of stuff to everyone in the room..... Not everybody is going to like everybody ,That is a fact of life no matter where we are in life..That does not give me the right to verbally attack anyone, Nor do I want to see it..... Again I stress that there are alot of good people in the chat rooms..I do enjoy talking to. But for me,It just takes that one rude comment to someone that ruins it for me..... Would like to see it fun again...That's what I use my IM for these days..... Sorry for any typo's ..I am who I am...lol Just my thoughts Sinful {=}
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 Well you did so hit the nail on the head. I used to go into chat often and have been on TSmeet for a long time. I seldom visit chat now and when I do it is only for a short time. I come on the net to find positive like minded people and talk about positives. I see a lot of people come to vent, but let's face it that gets old quick.
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