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Blogs > jadesmith69 > I look better NAKED!

Sex and the Sleepover  

jadesmith69 55F
455 posts
11/18/2014 7:35 pm

Last Read:
11/25/2014 8:37 pm
Sex and the Sleepover

i have run into a baffling situation
people i decided to have sex with are expecting me to stay the night.
I have a really hard time sleeping with someone i don't know.
I enjoy the sex, but then i want to go home to my own bed.
this Habit has proven detrimental in the past few months.
I used to think that guys just wanted the sex and then it was easier for them if POOF the sex pot vanished.
lately it seems as if everyone wants me to stay the night.
and if i don't i never hear from them again.
what is this?
is this a new trend?
i guess for me staying over takes intimacy to a whole new level.
it is nice to snuggle up to a warm body but i never sleep. if i am in bed next to someone i just want more of them, and i will be very still so they can get their sleep but i can never sleep. until a few weeks have passed and i get so tired that i can no longer stay awake.
perhaps i just look like someone who needs a place to stay... he he...
Ideas?
Thoughts?
Suggestions?
this was all so much easier when it was just about sex...lol
Lets Create together. http://TSmeet.com/blog/jadesmith69
we can fantasize forever.
J
MovingOn001 68M
929 posts
11/18/2014 8:11 pm

 Do you think it might help if you informed them ahead of time that you won't be able to spend the night? Let them know that you have a hard time falling asleep in a strange place and that you're afraid that your tossing and turning will keep them awake.

By doing it this way, you're being open and honest with them and it's possible that when you get to know them better, you will be able to sleep there. I hope this helps.


jadesmith69 replies on 11/19/2014 5:19 am:
not sure... i am not sure where this all comes from?
the first time it happened we had just finished a successful date intense petting followed by a quicky, i told him that i would try but it never worked out for me to be able to sleep, i also told him that i was not prepared to sleep over to which he said i have an extra tooth brush and comb in the bathroom, i tried to sleep ... for a couple of hours i lay there trying but the longer i was there the more uncomfortable i was. so i said thank you for a wonderful time and kissed him goodnight.
the second time it happened i had messaged this guy on TSmeet and came over to meet him at his work. we chatted over dinner and a drink and as we were getting further acquainted on his couch he told me he would like me to spend the night, this time i tried even harder and half way through the night i had to go home. and yes i had told him that if i could not sleep i would tiptoe out and go home.
the third time at least i was asked ahead of time so i put my comfy jammies in my bag and hopped that would help me sleep. i did not but i filled the time with a replay of the night, touching him all night and was rewarded in the morning with another round or blissful penetration.
perhaps it was all just a fluke.

Slipkn0t27 46M
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11/19/2014 11:33 am

 Wow yeah im kinda suprised by this.. im guilty i totally assumed you'd wanna do a sleepover too.. The reason i assume it is i just got the impression thats what you wanted an escape from home for the night.. But i certainly would never make you as i do understand the psychology of discomfort in a foreign place especially with someone you dont know well.. im glad you said something about it

As for never hearing from them again, maybe they got hurt feelings or something?? You asked for suggestions so the best one i can come up with has been said already, bring this up before you meet someone.. That way they wont be suprised when you want to go home and wont take it so personally..


jadesmith69 replies on 11/19/2014 5:25 pm:
yea... but there is always fantasy ...
and a fantasy played out in a motel is totally different than me spending the night in your home and your bed...

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