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What is Connection?
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What is Connection? Continuing on the NSA theme... So a new friend of mine helped me realize that I don't seek "true NSA" types because it's a lot like having sex with a mannequin -- (he said something different, but I use the term mannequin). Or maybe a "living doll"... someone NOT CONNECTED. Connection is a big deal to me. I watched a movie recently called Don Jon. It is perfect for this topic and I highly, highly recommend men (and women, but for a different reason)to watch it. In the film, internet porn addict learns what it is like to have real, connected-type sex. The trick is simple, though, and you can start applying it right now, with the very next person you hook up with. It is simply: BE THERE. Notice her. Embrace her. Look at her. Be in the moment. Touch her. Care about her pleasure. Read her cues. To some men that might sound like work... "what about me" I hear them moaning. Men who get it, who are THERE with their partner receive as much as they give, and if they don't SHE's the mannequin, (dud)... it happens.... but when TWO people are THERE... it's amazing. You don't have to "be in love" or "be in a relationship" to enjoy connected-type sex. All you gotta do is BE THERE in the moment. When men read my profile and yet don't seem to get me at all, I have no desire to have sex with them. I don't just need a warm body, that's easy to find -- It comes down to whether or not we connect. Sex isn't always some "tantric experience" when it's connected-type sex, either... it can still be kinky, raunchy, animalistic, but the joy factor just increases when there is some kind of connection there. I at least need a man to get me at some level. Just as I try to get him. Just as I want to learn what makes HIM tick... what pleases him... what is turning him on, what slows him down... etc. Those who have sex without even acknowledging their partner are missing out. I say watch the movie, it may help...  P.S. This is also good for those women who objectify men in their own way, maybe not sexually, but in their own way... His girlfriend totally objectified him and didn't recognize HIM as a person, either.. so it does go both ways.  |
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I try my best but I'm not sure about Don Jon I told my lady I watch lifetime channel sometimes now when she is here she just automatically change it to lifetime channel being understanding sharing is hard when there is something you really would rather watch . 
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Absolutely agree with your post here... Being present in the moment creates an opportunity for unbelievable connection, no matter the sexes involved! There's a freedom in the situation that brings confidence, as well as beautiful pleasure! Fit those who believe in energy/spiritual connection within, this can find me vibrating for days!
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Excellent post here! Well said and very true.. ty for sharing hugs V Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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