Reset Password
If you've forgotten your password, you can enter your email address below. An email will then be sent with a link to set up a new password.
Cancel
Reset Link Sent
If the email is registered with our site, you will receive an email with instructions to reset your password. Password reset link sent to:
Check your email and enter the confirmation code:
Don't see the email?
  • Resend Confirmation Link
  • Start Over
Close
If you have any questions, please contact Customer Service
Find Trans Hookups Now

Is this the Age of Sexual Insanity?  

StickyLips007 55F  
51 posts
4/11/2016 7:24 pm
Is this the Age of Sexual Insanity?


Or is it just me? The weekend makes me wonder...

I had a date last night and I woke up this morning with five huge hickies/bite marks on my chest. I was supposed to have another date tonight, so when he texted me this morning and asked me how my night was, I mentioned it to him. He was going to see it anyway. But he got pissed off at me and stopped talking to me.

I don't get it. We've never even met. He knows I am on TSmeet and am single. He has other people in his life too. But he's mad at me. What am I missing? Did I break a rule I don't know about? Or maybe something I said was a deal breaker for him. He had previously told me that using condoms were a deal breaker for him. As in, he refuses to use them and he won't meet anyone who insists on on them.

The guy from last night was a terrible kisser. I really, really did not enjoy kissing him. Which sucks because I liked him. He shoved his tongue down my throat. It was like he was trying to gag me with his tongue and I couldn't even really use my lips he way I like to. Bad kissing.....that is a huge deal breaker for me. I try to fix that right in the moment. I tried to guide his lips, tease them into relaxed submission...but he was in control with that damn tongue. I can still feel it in my throat. Ugh.

I don't know what my point is. All day I have been mulling over how discontent, how sad I feel about the state of my sexual life. Finding sex is absolutely no problem. Yay for me since my libido has seriously exploded in the last couple of years. And I continue to be fascinated by sex and feel the urge to explore that part of myself. I know there is still more for me to discover and I want to find it.

But I am exhausted by the revolving door of lovers who just don't do it for me. It's not that they are "bad" lovers. There are moments I enjoy, but just not enough for me to want to see them again. I'm tired of meeting a new lover and wondering why I bothered. If it's just about orgasms, I can do that for myself. It's all the other stuff we humans can give to each other in an erotic experience....that's what I crave, that's what I need from another. This is supposed to be fun. But it's not. It's just so draining most of the time.

I also had a date on Saturday night. The guy sat on my couch for two hours and ranted about his two ex's while he drank beer and smoked the entire time. He went on and on about how "done" he was with women and how women with are better lovers than women without (and I have no ). We finally got naked and 10 minutes later he decided "he felt too guilty" and couldn't go through with it. Then I had to ask him to leave because he was going to sit down and start drinking and smoking and ranting again. As if I was in the mood for more of that. I was horny and angry and frustrated and felt like shit about myself. He left and I crawled in bed and cried.

We're a bunch of fucked up individuals. This IS supposed to feel good, right?

Wantodouto123 62M
571 posts
4/11/2016 7:53 pm

Anyone I ever date starts talking about their exes? I'm pretty much done with them right then, they obviously got issues LOL! And as far is hickeys and bite marks OMG that's so elementary! Keep searching sweetheart there is good ones out there.... Kinda sucks we live so far apart LOL

I still/Wantodou2


Lynn1812 54M
4928 posts
4/11/2016 8:29 pm

With jackasses like THAT getting dates, its no wonder that decent men like me don't stand a chance.


lookin4funinBC9 63M
1386 posts
4/11/2016 8:33 pm

I am sorry I know you are disappointed but you have had more sex than I have had in the last year than I have had I the last 5 tears. Some guys are just looking to put another notch in the old bed post


alterego10000 63M  
262 posts
4/12/2016 4:11 am

Sounds like the train from Loserville has a stop right at your front door. But in all seriousness, do you meet someone out in public first, coffee or drinks, and do some sort of screening? Sounds like some of these guys with psych diagnoses would have sent you running then. Well good luck in your quest.


mrdatafucktoy 62M

11/15/2018 12:51 pm

I always wanted to give my wife a hickie, but she never agrees. Do I push it? No, of course not. But as far as your date talking about his ex's, I think that would be a deal breaker right there.

One thing I will say, is that don't ever compromise your laurels, for it is the only thing you have that you can call your own. Maybe you should be striving to extend your comfort zone so that you don't end up with the same old same old, and keep wondering "what did I do wrong?"

MrDataFuckToy


TheEnigma82 41M

3/25/2022 6:44 pm

Isn't it a general rule NOT to bring up the exes? As for the first guy you talked about, it sounded like he was being a hypocrite or maybe jealous. Regardless, it was very immature of him... he could have least discussed how he felt.


Become a member to create a blog