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Negativity
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Negativity Negativity is something I don’t like associating to myself. I love to bring people up, not down. Bring comfort, not sorrow. Sometimes things can shake you to the core. Hit you so hard that everything shifts. It can bring grief , pain and sorrow. It might make you better, but it might break you. That’s life and it’s not fair. What makes it worth it, is your character or lack thereof. I had a very bad experience on here. Not going into details, but it impacted me and to be honest not sure if it’s for the better or worse yet. I’ve been withdrawn, quiet and invisible. Negativity has been rolling off me in waves. It sucks because I’m so expressive and everyone around me has been noticing. Dealing with questions when all I want to do is cry or rage, is really not helping. There’s not too much that usually bothers me. Most things I find funny or just plain stupid. But this horrible thing has me beyond bothered, pissed off and very upset. Strong emotions is not something that I’m used to and I don’t know how to deal with it, so I’ve been shutting down. Positivity is something that I strive for, but negativity now has it’s hold on me and I can’t break it. |
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Nerdy, you are right. Life is not fair. In times like this you need a friend or friends that support you. Don't let negativity win. Become positive again. Look out for the nice and beautiful things in this world. This phase will pass. Just don't gibe in. You WILL braek it! Many heartfelt hugs 
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A little PMA goes a long long way. I have always spent the last 15 minutes before bed making a list of the positives of the day and being thankful for them. That puts the mind in a good positive place to finish the day, start the rest for the night and therefore start the next day positive.
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I am so sorry, nerdy girl. Hugs Live life to it's fullest! If you're bored, Read Hugs Gypsy
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No idea what happen. so I have no idea what to say or make out of this post. Hope things are well with you.
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Take time to process what happened. Try to make sense of it or recognize what you're feeling and why. And then move forward Don't worry about others, just yet. There's no rush.
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That someone so self-assured as yourself, could encounter something so indescribably bad, is a cautionary tale to everyone here that no one is invulnerable. Best of luck to you, going forward. People are strange when you're a stranger."
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Life is full of so many beautiful things that it really makes no sense to spend 98%of your waking hours putting up with the morbid, demoralizing actions of some waste of perfectly good oxygen.Now's when you want to re access what went wrong and how you will avoid these type of people in the future.You're a young gal with a long life that awaits you.It's crap like this that is going to make you a stronger person. Sadly there is no such thing as fair in this world.There are a lot of people that have been hurt in this arena.Some never forget and go through life vengeful and hell bent on making others feel their pain.Please don't take that path. Put enough distance between you and this event and never be afraid to reach out to others close to you.It's the most sensible thing you can do. As much as I hate to say this,"Welcome to the club stranger, you'll be just fine!" JB Using more than all the road!
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You really can't get any better advice than this.She writes a mighty fine blog and it's well worth the visit!JB Using more than all the road!
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The good thing about a bad experience is that it truly can be a learning experience. But in order to get to that point, one has to find their balance again and good lord a bad experience can knock one off balance. Strong emotions are a bit like a bad trip, you need someone who is not on that same trip to talk you through it until you come down. Talk to a friend or even a professional for 2 or 2 sessions to get your bearings.
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A few days ago I placed a nice comment in a group post only to find out I was banned from posting in that group. I don’t post negative comments or nasty comments anywhere and I don’t remember posting in that group before. I was a bit miffed and thought about blogging about being banned from a group I had not posted in before. After a few moments I figured it was not worth my time to post or be bothered by bad feelings over the incident; I have moved on from that bad feeling. You should move on from that bad experience too. A negative opinion is just someone else’s thoughts and their thoughts are not better than our own thoughts. If the negative incident was a physical action against you, that is on the person who did the bad action. You spoke your mind about a person with a negative post a few days ago and I saw some negative responses to the blog. That kind of blog wills get responses. You will be better prepared in the future from this experience. I think it is a shame that you changed your nick; it was catchy and hot. A nick is a tiny part of the person that created the nick; not a total description of their personality. This is a sex, mingle, chat, meet and be naughty website. Some people have to ruin other folk’s fun. Be well and happy.
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oops not your nick but the blog title...my bad,,,ha ha
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Oh well. Wake up tomorrow and find something positive, but keep in mind too much of either extreme is not a good thing. People are better when balanced.
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11/2/2016 5:20 pm |
Don't let the bad outweigh the good my friend! We all love you and have missed you. don't let the negativity win! "Sweet, steamy, sensuous kisses light the bright fires of passionate lust within us." scott6250
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Let me at that shark livered varmint I will shut him up . Come to poppa baby and sit on your old uncle Otis's knee and look out the window darling look out at the falling rain . Something come along and got a hold of you and it feels like a ball and chain whoa whoa . I said something come along and grab a hold of you and if feels like a ball and chain whoa . Honey that's exactly what it feels like a ball and baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaalllllllllllllllllllll and chain ! Neggie neggie don't let it get you down .
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Let the feelings take their course my lady - accept them , live them , empty from them And then come out on the sunny side We'll be there waiting for you Cheers - P
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Indeed bag things happen. It is important that you feel what you need to feel. Do not try to suppress certain emotions because you do not like them. Since you enjoy writing. write about them. Express them in the raw, you can do this privately for yourself as a way to purge. As you get these feelings out you can begin on the work to be back to your true self. Hugs to you  This is a Copy of My Profile Want to know even more about me? Read my Introduction Post. Feel free to drop me a line here: Give me All the Messages. Don't worry it is private! Check out all my rambles here, BlackRayne74!!   Desire becomes surrender, surrender becomes power. -Joker
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So I'd second what both BrownEyedBBW and BiggLala each said and add in that as someone who has pretty much been forged in an inferno of negativity the old adages of the strongest steel requiring the hottest fires aren't all that far off the mark. ....after all, while taking heat and being under pressure aren't exactly fun, positive experiences those are also the conditions that create diamonds ----- and you seem to be one heck of a diamond.
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It was very useful advice. Balance is something that I'm lacking in dealing with emotions. You're right, I do need to process the negative so I can let it go.
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The good thing about a bad experience is that it truly can be a learning experience. But in order to get to that point, one has to find their balance again and good lord a bad experience can knock one off balance. Strong emotions are a bit like a bad trip, you need someone who is not on that same trip to talk you through it until you come down. Talk to a friend or even a professional for 2 or 2 sessions to get your bearings.
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So I'd second what both BrownEyedBBW and BiggLala each said and add in that as someone who has pretty much been forged in an inferno of negativity the old adages of the strongest steel requiring the hottest fires aren't all that far off the mark. ....after all, while taking heat and being under pressure aren't exactly fun, positive experiences those are also the conditions that create diamonds ----- and you seem to be one heck of a diamond. Thank you. I hope I make it through to the end sparkling.
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Don't let the bad outweigh the good my friend! We all love you and have missed you. don't let the negativity win!
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Thank you. I hope I make it through to the end sparkling. -- especially since I'd say you already have a lot of strength and already do sparkle (though I suspect you may not yet realize just how much  )
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I'm sorry that happened to you and I'm also sorry that it took me so long to get to this post. Not that I have healing powers- mostly I'm a wise ass-but it feels a little like I let you down by not reading and responding sooner. Most of us have some trouble dealing with powerful emotions, I think. Some people come from families who teach them how to behave in such situations, but even that doesn't protect you from all hurt. For most of us, we have to figure it out on our own. You WILL figure it out. I hope it happens soon, and as painlessly as you can manage. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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