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When Having Sex becomes Making Love  

JaniceJanes 49T  
707 posts
12/1/2018 7:22 am
When Having Sex becomes Making Love

I’m pretty sure we all know there is a difference between simply Having Sex and the pleasure of Making Love but what really separates the two. They both have a similar ending but there is a significant difference in the enjoyment of the act itself of each of the participants.

I have only explored this as it relates to a man and a woman. Two gay men or two lesbian women is beyond my experience to explain. Although two members of the same gender have their own way of Having Sex or Making Love, I haven’t had those times myself.

This may sound stage coming from a Transexual (M toF) but now that I identify as a Woman, that is my point of view.

Having Sex is best described by me as when a man has an sexual release with a woman without taking the woman’s emotional state in to consideration. Men, as a with all male of any species, have an urge to populate the species by planting their sperm in a woman as often as possible. This is nature at it most basic level.

Having Sex, for men, is just that. Fucking someone without any emotional connection and just reaching an Orgasm. Spreading a man’s seed and only satisfying their own basic instinct. It only needs a warm orifice and a few minutes of unrestricted physical movement.

For a woman, it is much the same except in today’s world she has the mental need to be sexually attractive to the male. If she feels the male desired her, she can Orgasm without needed him to Orgasm at the same moment.

So, when it come to Having Sex, only one of the players needs to reach an Orgasm to Have Sex.

But when do we start Making Love?

This is where we connect as two people on the same path. The two people have achieved an emotional AND physical bond. We are both striving to obtain the same state of sexual fulfillment.

When, without words, your partner knows what you want or what will give you the most pleasure, then you are Making Love.

When your partner senses you are ready for the next step in the process of fulfilling your passion , you are Making Love.

When both partners have the same erotic rhythm in their movements and they are inhaling each others sensual musk, you are Making Love.

When the intimacy is over, and you can not fully release your hold on your partner you have Made Love.

You feel the need to touch as you both regain your senses that have been totally shaken by your complete immersion in sensual arousal. You may just want to rest your hand on your partner who has just given you moments of uncontrollable passion.

When your thoughts are to remain quietly next to him and not leave his side for a long as you can,

you have Made Love.

Jan

Atombombast1000 43M

12/9/2018 7:04 pm

 Great discussion and debate going on here.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
12/1/2018 6:35 pm

 I disagree... When you turn "Having sex" [and enjoying it], into , "Making love" [which is nonsense anyway because you're not actually "Making" anything]....then "Having sex" is turned into a production, and is now ruined.


Leegs2012 51M
96137 posts
12/1/2018 8:05 am

 I guess if you are emotionally tied to someone, it's making Love. I swing so both ways, for me it's playing and have great sex. Great post by the way


milwaukeetop 58M
9 posts
12/1/2018 7:54 am

 well thought out and very good


caliboy10022 37M

12/1/2018 7:38 am

 Well said, I agree with this in every way.


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