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Today I Wrote......  

jajo696 113F
558 posts
7/21/2019 5:46 am
Today I Wrote......


......my Obituary. Some of you may think this odd...but 2 yrs ago at the passing of my husband, the woman asked all kinds of questions about him. I didnt know at the time, she was collecting info for his obit. Upon reading it in the program and in the paper, while most of the details were there, his essence was lost in her words. I decided then, i would write my own, as only i know the info, and the info i want shared. I also didnt want my having to do one other thing upon my leaving, as she will already inherit two properties with 3 living spaces to clean out. Having lost all of my family members, within a short period of time, i have paperwork from parents, brother and 3 aunts I am going through and dispersing. Just recently a few names i am responsible for came up on the abandoned property list, so i must submit paperwork for . Its all a process.....and im unsure how much progress is happening. Yet...each day, i try to accomplish something. Thats the best that i can do. Thats the best that we ALL can do.

So...yes, todays accomplishment is a done deal ~~

jajo696 113F
4287 posts
7/21/2019 7:05 am

......and what will be your todays accomplishment??


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
7/21/2019 7:06 am

Happy Sunday to ALL ~~


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
7/22/2019 10:58 am

Well...
That's a touch too real for me. Yep... not ready for this one.
Reminds me all of stuff that I have left to do...
I'll start by having a coffee ☕ and thinking for a moment or two. Procrastination won't catch up with me... today.


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
7/22/2019 12:49 pm

    Quoting  :

Its a very freeing thing. Its like what i learned....whats impt is what is between the dash ( dates of birth and death ). I wanted my dash to reflect who i am. I understand what u say....having a young one and going thru chemo....puts a diff perspective on things. My daughter was 6 mths old when i was diagnosed. Last week she turned 28. You and I wont have to have anyone else fill in the dash for us. Thanku for stopping by~~


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
7/22/2019 12:52 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Well...
    That's a touch too real for me. Yep... not ready for this one.
    Reminds me all of stuff that I have left to do...
    I'll start by having a coffee ☕ and thinking for a moment or two. Procrastination won't catch up with me... today.
Yup....it def is real.....and something that we or someone else must endure. Yes....we all make our mental notes of what we must and wanna do. You with your coffee are off to a good start. Enjoy the day ! ...and thanks for your thoughts ~~


Younger4OlderW88 40M
26 posts
8/3/2019 10:52 pm

this is amazinfg love this


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
8/4/2019 3:30 am

Thanks.....as we enter into advancing age, our mortality smacks us in the face. This is just one way to be proactive and to not have our loved ones have to do it at an already stress filled and emotional time. Its not for everyone, of course though. Thanks for stopping by and commenting ~~


lonlyforlove2 81M  
32704 posts
8/7/2019 7:36 pm

Young Lady, as my self in the December of life , I too think of the end. and there are a lot of them with me, a lot of stuff to get rid of, what to do , how to start, where to start and when are real questions on my mind. I wish you luck . Make that obit right , the right you want to see it . have a good evening...

Stop by at lonlyforlove2
also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow
Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker"
also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
8/8/2019 4:54 am

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    Young Lady, as my self in the December of life , I too think of the end. and there are a lot of them with me, a lot of stuff to get rid of, what to do , how to start, where to start and when are real questions on my mind. I wish you luck . Make that obit right , the right you want to see it . have a good evening...
well....as they say....All journeys begin with that first step. So take that first step, whatever you think is the most impt direction. For me it was that writing, as i didnt want my only child to be saddled with it, she will have sooooo many other duties. Next....a friend and i will visit the crematory and pre plan things, i will have left there one of my insurance policies to be activated for payment. Two manila envelopes with info...one for daughter, one left at the crematory. Ive already started purging of household 'things'...
All journeys begin with a .....first.....step. Good Luck to you

.......and thanks for the visit~~


Avonsenior 70M
1458 posts
8/10/2019 10:43 pm

Good Luck with your taking care of the estates. I am working on my Father's estate and feel my hands are full and unable to take care of some simple tasks at my own home. I have a brother and sister but they are not any help with the tasks at hand and not even wanting items that my parents had earmarked for them.
The house had three floors and 64 years of accumulations.


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
8/11/2019 2:30 am

    Quoting Avonsenior:
    Good Luck with your taking care of the estates. I am working on my Father's estate and feel my hands are full and unable to take care of some simple tasks at my own home. I have a brother and sister but they are not any help with the tasks at hand and not even wanting items that my parents had earmarked for them.
    The house had three floors and 64 years of accumulations.
Oh My.....a daunting task..i can appreciate your dilemma. My only sibling has passed, so its all mine to do. Plus...that generation were children of the depression....they kept every friggin thing. I understand ur feeling. Take ur time and do what ya can....a breath at a time is my motto. Best wishes...and thanks for stopping by ~~


DDreams524 71M

8/31/2019 1:29 am

What a great idea writing your own Obit.. Some thing I need to think about.


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
8/31/2019 2:09 am

    Quoting  :

Its a sense of...whew...another thing not left up to another. Besides who knows you better?? I know its not everyones cup of tea...but it was ..freeing for me to do so. Thanks for dropping by ~~


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
8/31/2019 2:11 am

    Quoting DDreams524:
    What a great idea writing your own Obit.. Some thing I need to think about.
Its not for every one....but i needed to do it...and it was a sense of accomplishment when done. You can also just begin it and tweak it as things cross your mind. Thanks for your comment. its appreciated


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
10/1/2019 12:05 pm

I'm still giving this some thought. Serious thought!
One thing for sure... my insurance policy includes a provision for an all you can eat, buffet... open bar... and a DJ... at the wake! 👍
Not too words on paper.... I'm working on the song list, for now...


flannel_light 61F
4586 posts
8/4/2020 7:08 am

I know when I got my disability ,I paid for my funeral. I did not want my daughter to go threw what she did when her dad past. I have my songs picked out now just to write the obit out

The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness.


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
8/4/2020 11:52 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    I'm still giving this some thought. Serious thought!
    One thing for sure... my insurance policy includes a provision for an all you can eat, buffet... open bar... and a DJ... at the wake! 👍
    Not too words on paper.... I'm working on the song list, for now...
Still thinking ? Someone just commented here and i saw that i never replied to your comment. Very sorry for the delay. I must say...it made me smile...the buffet and DJ and all....sounds like quite the party. Too bad you 'll miss it ~~

Also just saw and read most of the boxing arena that Dio set up like 7 days ago. All i can say is ....ugh @ all this. I just wish the ladies would let it go and ignore each other and keep it moving~~


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
8/4/2020 11:56 am

    Quoting flannel_light:
    I know when I got my disability ,I paid for my funeral. I did not want my daughter to go threw what she did when her dad past. I have my songs picked out now just to write the obit out
Yup.....Light...thats the way i figure it too. They will already be distraught...its one less thing for them to think of and do. Still trying to look out for the children forever ~~

Thanks for your thoughts......


stopbyandsayboo 52M
1295 posts
10/4/2020 1:55 pm

Hi Hun

I am so sorry for your loss. I know all to well the pain and crying you have had to endure. I am here for you if you need an ear.

JUST ME A TALL PASSIONATE MAN WITH A HUGE HEART


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
10/4/2020 5:57 pm

    Quoting stopbyandsayboo:
    Hi Hun

    I am so sorry for your loss. I know all to well the pain and crying you have had to endure. I am here for you if you need an ear.
Thanks Stopby....i know.....that you know. Its crazy at times...you can be rolling along nicely and then a scent or a song or a memory stops u in ur tracks. Yup....i know you know. Its a moment at a time....sometimes a breath at a time. Thanks for your ear...its appreciated more than you know. Huggsss


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